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[quote=Anonymous]I had a similar thing happen to me.  One of my best friends from college got engaged and told me she wanted me to be in the wedding.  We had been close in college but lived in different cities, and drifted apart so were not in frequent communication.  After she asked me, I heard nothing about it for months and eventually got my invititation to the wedding - clearly not as a bridesmaid.

I was happy to be considered and truthfully was a bit hurt that it didn't come to fruition.  But if I'm honest with myself, it makes sense that she would include friends in closer proximity who could help more with planning and who were a bigger part of her life at that point in time.  On the other hand, some people (perhaps your friend is one of them) choose people for their bridal party whom they have a longer history with, and its the newer friends who are less likely to be included.  Anyway, I never mentioned it to my friend and assumed that she had good reasons that I didn't make the final cut despite her initial intentions.  I attended as a guest, and had a great time.  Ignore the people who say that you shouldn't care about this as a guy-that's really ignorant.  But try not to take your exclusion or inclusion as a measure of your friendship.  So many factors can go into that decision, its a crapshoot.  Just be supportive of your friend and have a good time at the wedding either way![/quote]

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