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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve been divorced for 2 1/2 years now.  I have full custody of my two teenage (14, 16) girls.   Dad is a deadbeat and only sees them a few times a year.  Dating has been a challenge.  I finally met someone that I’m head over heels in love with and my kids are being kind of rude.  They barely acknowledge him. We’ve been dating for 9 months now and I see a future with him.  Given how serious we are and the fact that I get no break, he comes over a few times a week and helps me with my house, eats dinner, etc.   Come to find out, my kids feel uncomfortable (not in a creepy way) with him around so much.  I was somewhat shocked to find this out.  He is such a good person, he’s very normal, he’s a family man, has kids of his own, a great job, lots of friends and hobbies.   This has definitely complicated our relationship.  He volunteered to step back from coming over, but I think he was honestly a little hurt.  I have my kids in therapy bc there is some obvious unresolved feelings around my divorce that hasn’t been processed.  Any thoughts on what might be going on here?  Did I introduce him too soon to my kids and they weren’t ready for it?  I feel like I’ve done my work and waited til I felt strongly about someone before introducing him to my kids. I know they are teenagers and by default somewhat selfish, but I haven’t been this happy with someone in a long time.  [/quote]

Well you, you, you. What you want, what you want. What about what *they* want, and what's best for them?  I'm shocked that you're "shocked"-- they're traumatized because their father has abandoned them, and now you're trying to force this man into their home and their lives. Can't you give them some privacy?

Therapy is not a vending machine where you put time and money in at the top and a teenager who likes your boyfriend comes out the bottom.

Nine months is nowhere near enough to act like you're getting married. You are acting like a foolish teenager, and it's you who is selfish, not them. They're acting cold because they know it's too soon and that you're acting like a foolish schoolgirl. They want to slow things down and you should want that too.[/quote]

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