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[quote=Anonymous]First, how did you find out, how do you know it's even true?

Second, yes, absolutely, a cheater can love the person they are cheating on.

Third, I don't think it would have necessarily been easier to learn about this when the cheater was alive. My parent cheated, and I never brought it up with them. Maybe that's weird, but what would they have said? I found out when I was a teenager and I don't think that was great timing. The cheated on parent brought the cheating parent into my room and made the cheating parent apologize - without referencing the affair - and say they would do a better job trying to be a better parent and spouse. It was awful and awkward. I just said ok and that I needed to keep doing my homework.

I do think my parent loved my other parent and absolutely wanted my other parent to be their life partner. They are still together and I think they are both glad to be together.

Finally, try to separate your parent as a spouse vs as a parent. You can still love them as a parent even if they were flawed spouses.[/quote]

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