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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hear you, OP. I'm divorced. My parents are both dead and my only sibling is a vicious drama queen.

OP, your kids might be small now, but they'll be there for you when they're adults, although be careful not to be too needy. I have two great kids, which is something. They're out of the house, but we still text/talk a few times a week and we try to visit with each other weekly. They both have remote jobs but recently said they wanted to return to this area after college/grad school "to be around family."

Also, reach out to your extended family, OP. I have a cousin whose immediate family has suffered multiple deaths in the past give years, and she seems to be reaching out to me as well. There might be an extended family member in your life who wants to visit/travel with you/talk. [/quote]

DP here.  I agree.  My kids formed their own opinions about DH's side. DH wanted to appease them by spending time with them, and having the kids get to know them, of course. Unfortunately, favoritism was something our kids asked about (without calling it that) when they were young, as they asked to do outdoor activities (one in particular) with their grandparent, and the grandparent literally responded an emphatic (and rather mean)  "NO!" - DC could not join them.  Who does that??? Our DC responded, but grandparent does that activity with other grandkid/s, why can't we participate?  (It would have been very easy for an adult to accommodate, without issue).

Grandparent instead offered another activity that was/is indoor, took little effort, is generally not done in one sitting, was not something our kids were then interested in (at all), and would not provide nearly the experience that our kid/s were (and still very much are!) interested in.  The activity grandparent declined is actually something our DC (and grandparent) does every week, in season, and delights in doing so. The grandchild that grandparent insisted on going with - does not do the activity, probably ever.

In fact, grandparent does the activity each week and never asked DC, until recently DC did ask grandparent, and they hemmed and hawed but agreed. WOW. Grandparent of the year!?

And so it goes. Children make their own decisions.  Wait it out, and be there for them. Show them you care, and you are deserving of your title. [/quote]

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