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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He sounds like every 13 year old boy I know. [/quote]

Not mine.

He's learned that there are basic rules to be followed in the house, and they are for the benefit of the whole family.  His bed gets made every morning.  His laundry gets put always.  And he sits & eats dinner with us as a family.

When he was younger, it was more difficult, but that is when we imposed the consequences for things like bed not made, or laundry put on the floor.

Stop enabling these young men to be disrespectful.  Dinner is the time to eat a proper meal.  Not the time to ignore the food in front of you and then go raid the pantry.

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Someone give this lady a gold medal for being the perfect momager :roll: [/quote]

Whar are the consequences of bed not made? I dont make mine every day. Id love for the kids to do it but there are other hills. We have few snacks and kids are little. But even DH wont have enough dinner for whatever reason some days (late lunch, bot his fave meal) and then eat a peanutbhtter sandwich at 9 pm. Drives me nuts and upsets me that we have leftovers because not enough dinner  was consumed. But i cant nag a grown man about it. [/quote]

It is just so neurotic. The consequence of a bed not made? What even is that? I dunno its a messy bed? Why does there need to be a consequesnce? A consequence of not doing laundry? I dunno, having dirty clothes?

I'm definitly not going to be micromanaging food.  I try to cook food that everyone likes, if they don't like it sure just make a sandwich. Not my problem. However I normally make good dinner that does not send someone running to the pantry.[/quote]

The consequences were things like:  no football practice that day.  Or no wrestling practice.

Or when they were smaller, no nintendo.  or no screens for 24 hours.

Make the bed, because I, as the parent, have instructed you to make the bed every day.

You guys may think I'm neurotic, but I'm not.  My kids RARELY have a consequence anymore, bc I did not do everything for them when they were younger and they now understand that when I ask them to do something, it will behoove them to do.

And I'm sure someone will chime in with what a horrible environment my house must be.  But its not. It's full of love and kindness and mutual respect.  Bc the kids pull their weight and they understand roles in the family.

Assert yourself as the parent.  It is what a child (an yes, 13/14/15 are children) need[/quote]

I parent nothing like that and my kids also don't need consequences from me. Their consequences are a natural result of their own 'mistakes'.

And OP said the kids eat snacks after dinner, not that they refuse to eat dinner. And if they do, big whoop. I don't parent my teens like I did when they were 8. [/quote]

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