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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is going to be a boarding school for problem youth solution.[/quote]

OP, I don't recommend doing this. They're ultimately short-term remedies, and the kids who go through them often come out with more problems than before.

Disclosure: I survived one of these programs in the 2000s. I was used an example of someone who did "well" in the program, but it left lasting trauma that I'm still discussing in therapy many years later.[/quote]

Never said I recommended it. I meant no one else will take a violent child.[/quote]

OP didn't say DS is violent.

I don't know what a school-based solution looks like, but maybe a therapist and a more supportive environment can make it work.[/quote]

"...repeated disciplinary issues such as getting into fights, including disrupting class by fighting with or confronting other students he feels have disrespected him."[/quote]

True, but it doesn't necessarily mean they're physical. Admittedly, my problems were emotional dysfunction rather than physical aggression, so I can't speak to what schools can do for this child. All I can say is my heart goes out to OP and this child. It's immensely painful to go through life like this.[/quote]

I cannot think of a boy who fights without getting physical. I feel for him, but I also have my children in private to protect them from kids who might harm them. So.[/quote]

I guess it's clear I wasn't a boy. I wasn't even expelled or counseled out of my private school, so my experience was obviously very different.

[b]Again, I don't know what OP can or should do here. All I know is that it's important not to put the child in a program that uses abusive tactics.[/b][/quote]

NP. Got it. Very true. Sorry for your suffering.

OP, maybe ask Jeff to put this on special needs forum. They are known for being incredibly helpful. [/quote]

This is OP. I am aware there is a special needs forum and I deliberately did not put it there because I am not looking for the whole medical / diagnosis approach here. We have done plenty of that, he’s been seeing psychologists on and off for years. I’m looking to surface private school options I might not have thought of.

I have noticed his emotional control getting steadily better outside of school (basically when I’m with him socially, when he’s with his friends, etc) and if anything worse at school, which is leading me to think about the school environment. Also some evidence that he seems to do better in a more structured classroom.

I am well aware that this is a challenging situation and if people don’t have an answer that’s fine. [/quote]

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