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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're going to have a pretty big age gap. I probably wouldn't at this point, should have just pulled the trigger a year ago if you really wanted to do it before you get too comfortable. Your older two are just about to get to the sweet spot and you'll have to start all over again with a baby.[/quote]

Three years apart is a big gap? [/quote]

Assuming pregnancy happens right away, lucky if its 3 and the oldest will be 6 years older or more. I barely know my brother 6 years younger than me.[/quote]

I am much closer and always have been to 7years younger brother than big sis who is 18 months older. Everyone has anecdotes. [/quote]

And? OP asked a question and I answered it. There's no right answer here. My youngest brother is 6 and 9 years younger than me and my older brother. He grew up like an only child. I have 3 kids spaced within 5 years, it's much better and they are growing up like siblings should. [/quote]

Op here. I don’t think there’s a big difference between three kids in 5 years and three kids in 6.

But leaving that aside, I’m the youngest of 4 kids. Growing up I was closely with my older siblings who were 6 and 8.5 years older than me. My other brother (who is 3 years older than me) and I fought the most but got super close as teenagers. As adults, I’m closest with my brother 3 years apart and my sister 8.5 years older.

There’s no one way siblings “should” grow up. My parents spaced us nicely so they would have time to focus on each of us as babies. If I’d been pregnant with a 14 month old, I personally would not have managed well.[/quote]

But you would have been through the part you dislike the most sooner. I prefer having kids in similar stages at the same time. And you actually have to be pregnant now to have that spacing. Secondary infertility is a real thing, it may not happen when you want to or as easily, even if your mind is made up.[/quote]

Totally. I actually have embryos frozen. My second was an IVF baby. There is a possibility that it takes longer than expected but do have some degree of control over spacing if it were to work out. [/quote]

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