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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Related question - how much are you "pressuring" your own kids to end up in the types of high paying professions you pursued - tech, dr, lawyer from a top law school?

Do you think it matters because life is expensive and you still want them to be on top financially - to have the best mansions and Teslas that you have [or whatever the equivalent fancy goods will be when they're 30]? Or do you feel like - you've sacrificed to build family wealth so now they can do what they want even if that's urban planning or non profits or being a teacher?[/quote]

This is a myth. DC was born with a medical condition and I truly hoped that she would grow up to be a doctor to help kids. DC has no interest in biology and I am encouraging her to follow what she likes[/quote]

I'm glad this is a myth nowadays. When I was growing up in the 90s in NJ - born and raised in the US to immigrant parents - it def was not a myth. For myself and all of my friends, our parents made clear that the career option they wanted was DOCTOR, if you truly could not do that [like you didn't have the aptitude in bio/chem to get in], then you could consider engineering or investment banking (only if you went to a school like Wharton and only bc we were close to NYC) or law (again ivy league law schools only). I mean my parents were "reasonable" in that they didn't pressure us to be doctors but let us pick between medicine, law, and finance but that was it. I had other friends in high school who absolutely forced them into medicine when they did not want to go. [b]These people are now age 40+ slogging away in medicine and they hate it and yes it has strained parental relationships[/b], while the parents sit there and say - so what if you aren't "happy" look how rich you are. Meanwhile these 40+ year olds hate their day to day lives. I'm not suggesting I know TONS of people in this boat, but I do know multiple people in this boat.

So I'm glad the parents of today are encouraging their kids to explore and decide on professions that won't make them miserable for 40 years.[/quote]

You’ll have to define what you mean by these “strained relationships.”  I’ve almost never seen an Indian person who has a poor relationship with their parents – and, as an Indian, I’ve been around Indians my whole life.  And certainly I’ve never seen the type of behavior that routinely gets recommended in the DCUM family forum: “If your mother brings up that topic again, just hang up on her.”

Don’t get me wrong – Indians certainly have their faults.  A big one has already been addressed in this thread, that is, an excessive focus on money and status.  I can just say I have almost never seen badly strained parental relationships.[/quote]

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