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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is always a reason and sometimes it’s with the excluded and sometimes it’s with the excluders. Every situation is different, but a child being excluded isn’t ALWAYS the innocent victim of mean girls like many times these threads imply. Sometimes these kids are bad friends or have major personality issues and the other kids just don’t have the skills to manage it in a respectful way so they avoid or exclude. Only in childhood are we forced to be friends with people by others.

And yes sometimes it is bullying or dominating types asserting their power. [/quote]

I've never seen what you're talking about. It's almost always a jealous friend doing the excluding. They are threatened by others and want certain friends all to themselves so they try to exclude the competition as they see a friend trying to pull away. Insecurity of the excluders is the main issue.[/quote]

NP.

This stuff can be complicated.  I am aware of two situations where girls were iced out in middle school.  In both cases, the girls were awful.  Lying, not kind, pitting friends against each other.  Eventually others in the group are just done.  Agree with above, the kids don't have the skills to manage it in a respectful way.  Which sucks.  And in both cases, the mothers were pretty clueless.   Some of these girls are really damn good at showing one face to adults/parents and they act a completely different way to peers.

I agree with this PP it can be all sorts of reasons and yes some are just the excluder and is flat out mean and yes in middle school a lot is based on superficial things like weight, looks, status, and clothes.  [/quote]

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