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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Finally, a sliver of good news for those of us who can't afford to live in these neighborhoods.

Although even in my middle class Loudoun suburb, the pressure is still on to have the latest iphone/Stanley/lululemon/Nike shoe/whatever. It is intense and I hate what its done to my kids. [/quote]
I think that kind of thing is only important if your kid wants to be in the popular crowd.

My 15 DD yr old DD doesn't have the latest whatever (what is a Stanley?), and she's still a pretty happy kid, very involved with her interests.

The popular kids here are into all that name brand stuff. I had a talk with DD very early on about the rabbit hole of going down the name brand chasing.[/quote]

Most kids want to fit in. Its actually more rare to find a kid that doesn't. Clearly that is just your daughter's personality. Telling kids "not to care" about brand names doesn't usually work. [/quote]
pp here.. the trick is to be in a big diverse school where not everyone is the same.  When the school is made up of a homogeneous group of kids, that's when it's harder to "not care". [/quote]

DP, and while there is something to what you are saying (I also prefer a big diverse school without a clear "in crowd"), sometimes kids just want to fit in with a certain group of kids no matter what. You can't always control it. If your DD marches to her own beat, that's great, but that doesn't mean that you caused that with your parenting. Some kids are naturally more conformist. You see it in families -- one kid who is happy doing their own thing and doesn't care what peers do, and another who is the opposite and very focused on being in line with peers. It's a personality issue and your choice of school won't necessarily have any impact.[/quote]
of course... sometimes you can talk till you're blue in the face, but if the kid wants to be in the in-crowd, not much else you can do.

My point was that to mitigate this type of situation talk to your kids early about designer, name brand things, and also don't live in a homogeneous area.[/quote]

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