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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We had a really rough experience with similar aged kids at a destination wedding of a family member, and even years later when the sibling talks about the wedding / posts about the anniversary I feel a pit in my stomach. It was just so hard, pressured, demanding, expensive, and everyone got so sick (the baby severely). We had major travel delays too—basically, everything that could go wrong did.

So I would bring the nanny, for sure, and I’d think about the kids you have, how well they travel, and be realistic about what you’re willing to do. It sounds like you will have a lot of family there—will they be helpful?

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I’m the person who got a local nanny at a ski resort. It was a really tough weekend. The baby got croup and was up all night before the wedding / reception holding a wheezing baby in a steamy shower. I look exhausted and not at all my best in the photos. I barely remember any of it, but it was important to me that my husband have the memories with his parents and siblings. Would I do it for a cousin? No. Would I do it again for my other SIL later this year? Absolutely! This time it’s ski-resort bride who will be the maid of honor with a 2yr old and a 4yr old. In her defense, she didn’t have kids yet and had No Idea how hard and expensive that weekend was for us.

My advice for OP is that if family members say “you don’t need a nanny, we will help” do not believe them unless they have a solid track record of being actually helpful. Even then write out a schedule of events and who is doing what regarding kids’ eating schedule, naps, expectations when you will be available (kid free) for hair, makeup, photos. Expectations of what events the kids need to make an appearance at. Be flexible, but also be honest with the bride and groom if needed. My SIL wanted to have dinner food and high chairs for my kids at the reception, but dinner was at 8pm! The kids came to cocktail hour only. [/quote]

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