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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ex (who was physically, verbally, financially, emotionally abusive) set up a green light card for tween. Card allows ex to monitor spending and incentivize/control the kid with money; card also allows location tracking. Ex also got kid a wallet and insists kid carry card in wallet everywhere. I find this really troubling. It would not be with a normal person but with him it is making me sick to my stomach.[/quote]

This doesn't sound abusive.  He is allowed to know where his child is.  Many of us track our kids.  We have our child carry money and apple pay.  Eventually we will get them a credit card.  Are you giving the child spending money?  What's wrong with Dad giving spending money and being involved?  Sounds like he cannot do anything right.[/quote]

You are sick. This need to track your kids is crazy. I hate the way you nut jobs normalize this. [/quote]

It is normal to monitor your kids.  Why don’t you give your kid spending money?[/quote]

OP hasn't said anything about giving her kids spending money or not.

Abusive and controlling parents take normal things and twist them to their purposes.  So, they lose the right to do those normal things.

My kid sent his Dad photos from their vacation, which led to him asking a million questions, and then screaming at my kid about how he shouldn't have left me alone, because I might have snuck off to meet a man (I put kid in a ski lesson and went to the grocery store.  No man was involved.).  So, even though seeing pictures of your kid when you are separated is a very normal thing to do, he doesn't get to do it.  [/quote]

Did you cheat on your ex?  Clearly there is more going on here.  And, why did you leave your kid alone?  You stay and monitor the lesson and then take your child to the grocery store.  Why would you leave your child with  a stranger on vacation?  I'd question that judgement too.

Mom can give kid access to money and hand back the card to Dad saying thank you, I've given the kid spending money and he doesn't need this.[/quote]

You obviously know nothing about ski lessons. No you don’t stay/tag along on your kid’s ski lesson. The instructor takes them up the mountain and you either wait in the lodge to see from afar the few times they come down to catch the lift, or you do something else as PP did.[/quote]

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