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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think people are misunderstanding you, OP. Are you someone who distresses by alone time? It's perfectly okay to not enjoy excessive touch. If you never want your child to touch you, that's a problem. If you are exhausted by 24/7 touching, that might not be unusual. It's probably just your kid's age, when she desires a lot of touch. Or maybe she feels insecure about something and is seeking reassurance through touch.

I think you need to keep making the extra effort to provide her with touch, but you can't ignore your own needs. It will show in HOW you touch her. Providing less but truly quality touch time is far more important than more but disinterested, half-resentful touch. Give her some dedicated touch time, and find ways to redirect it when you are overwhelmed - explain to her that in addition to touch, words and actions can also show love. Read her a book, ask her about something she's excited about, etc.[/quote]

PP, I think you hit the nail on the head.  I am an introvert, and I certainly recharge by being alone, having alone time, etc.  I did know that about myself but hadn't really viewed this situation through that particular lens, but looking back, I can see that the times it most gets to me are when I am already drained and haven't had any time to recharge; it's at times like this where it can feel like an all-out, purposeful, assault on me.   :oops:  And DD is absolutely absolutely an extrovert.  I have already been aware of this aspect of DD and myself, and have done reading about parenting an extrovert when you are an introvert, but just didn't really click that this was part and parcel of the same issue.  It's those times, at the end of a work day when I've had no transition bw work and home but I just walk across the parking lot to pick up DD from daycare and we hop in the car and she starts chatter chatter chattering, or after a long weekend of lots and lots of family-time, when I feel drained, when these feelings start to come up.  Well, thank you all for listening and helping me better "frame" this in my head, so I can get a handle on it.  For one, I think I need to be aware that I need to recharge my own batteries before I get to the point where I am scraping the bottom of the barrel.  As it is, that is how I feel sometimes.  Ugh.  And, like some of you other PPs have mentioned, DD is young, so it's not like she'll always be like this but it is developmentally appropriate for her.  Well, thank you again.  [/quote]

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