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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Keep refocusing him. He's throwing kibble to get a rise out of you. He wants to see where the boundary is and what happens when he crosses it.
Give 2 positive options that you're okay with (do you want your baby doll or your stuffed animal with your nap?). It gives the illusion that they have some choice, which is what they really want.
Do not back down!! If you say no to something, you better stand strong and not give in. This is pretty crucial for parenting.

A lot of times if it's something that needs done, but they won't do it, (like holding hands while crossing the street) I will just pick them up. Sometimes that makes them whine even more, so I will ask do you want to hold hands or be carried? [/quote]

Rolling my eyes at this answer because these are only the correct answers for easy kids. Some kids do things just to explore how stuff works or entertain not get “get a rise” out of caregivers. Ignoring and redirecting do not work on stubborn kids.

[b]And mine isn’t dumb enough to ever, EVER choose one of the options when she wants neither. She will just repeat the third thing she wants that you didn’t offer.[/b] If I say, you can either hold my hand or I’ll carry you, which would you prefer? She’ll say, I’d prefer to run into the street. Big Little Feelings is a total waste of money for sensitive or defiant kids. [/quote]

Lol. Okay…your kid isn’t special or unique (or…smarter?! Lol.) in that, that’s how they all respond naturally / initially. You take it a step farther by then saying okay, if you don’t choose I’ll choose for you. And give her one more chance to choose, and then you do choose for her - in your example, you pick her up and carry her across the street, against her will, and as she protests calmly say “yes, you didn’t choose and I chose for you; next time you can try choosing if you want.” You approach all of this in a very blasé / painfully calm and emotionally uninvested manner. Do not change course when you pick her up and she immediately says, “no I want to hold your hand!!!” - the answer is still ‘you had a chance to choose and decided not, but next time you can decide to choose if you like.”

Also, her child is most definitely continuing this behavior because he gets a reaction - OP said as much (somewhere down the line he decided “no” was funny. The answer to this obviously involves stopping using “no” when you redirect, in addition to incorporating advice other wise PPs have shared [/quote]

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