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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH is sort of like this and only in marriage counseling did it seem to “click” for him that it’s annoying.  I will say that I don’t expect him to show enthusiasm for things like paint colors or furniture but when he does it’s a very pleasant surprise.[/quote]

What was the solution from counseling? [/quote]

The counselor told him “is that kind behavior?  Is that what you want to model for your children, and is this marriage the model you want them to follow?”

Now dear reader, I have said much the same to my husband possibly COUNTLESS times, but apparently if the words are coming from a nice older lady who giggles at his jokes, THEN DH takes it seriously.

That is what I’ve learned from counseling.[/quote]

Did you be nice and giggle at his jokes before  counseling?
Or does he have a thing for older ladies? (Maybe ask his mom do deliver requests for you.)[/quote]

It's been 15 years of his jokes, so no. I laugh a lot but DH has a lot of "classics" that are no longer funny, so the counselor defintely laughs more consistently than I do.  He does like older ladies but his mom passed away.  :(

My point is that sometimes you just need a neutral third party to say the EXACT SAME THING you have been telling your spouse, but in a less charged context and environment.[/quote]

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