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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This seems way more complicated than it needs to be.

$1500 is fairly moderate for a week long trip. Clearly your husband really wants to go. Let him go! You guys have the money for him to go even with all the budgetary needs. Fun needs to be a part of the budget too! Life is lived now and honestly you aren’t guaranteed anything in the future.

It also sounds like you really want to go on a couples trip and this is a sore point/hurting your feelings that your DH seems more committed to boys trip than trip with you. This is a separate issue. Bring this up with him and plan out your couples trip at same time that he plans out his boys trip.

I also get the feeling that you are somewhat of a “no” person with him. I don’t mean to be harsh. I get that you have been working your tail off and have this firm grip on your financials that he seems to lack, but it also seems like you guys need to loosen up and start having more fun NOW.

I second going to therapy to work a lot of this out. It just feels overly complicated and depressing. Even with all the budgetary constraints you are both in a comfortable financial situation! I don’t get why your situation therefore reads like you are barely getting by.

Your narrative feels flooded with scarcity and I suspect it really doesn’t need to be that way. Does this have something to do with your upbringing and parents being very conservative with financials? I’m just throwing something at the wall here but I get the feelings there’s stuff to unpack here. Your husband needs fun now and you need to feel secure and loved. [/quote]

Good lord, don't help OP's husband gaslight her. The way he's treating her and his demands are inexcusable any way you look at it.[/quote]

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