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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You don’t travel together “yet”?! You have been married for 20 years and this man is trying to figure out ow to reclaim his inheritance as something other than commingled. There is only one reason yo be doing that.

If I am truly the person breaking this to you I am really sorry, but OP: you are not going to be traveling with this person. You are probably getting divorced.[/quote]

This is accurate, unfortunately. OP, please shake yourself out of this desperation to see your husband as a good guy. He's clearly not. He spent his inheritance on stuff he wanted, doesn't prioritize vacations with you or things that you want, and uses you to support his lifestyle and his family. Now he's trying to milk you for even more money.

Like the pp said, there's only ONE reason to suddenly want you to "pay back" $45K just to him. The same $45K that he already spent on things he wanted. And after he's been spending your/your family's financial contributions on himself and his family. Don't do this. He's been gaslighting you for years with excuses for why you both can't have the things that you want, but you can pay for the things that he wants.

Stop being a doormat. Prioritize what you want and just start spending it on yourself. Take vacations with your friends. He'll likely go through the roof if you start treating yourself as well as you've both been treating him.

95% chance you're headed for a very ugly divorce where you'll be blindsided with all sorts of stuff that you've been willfully ignoring. I meant this gently, but please get your head out of your ass and put yourself and any kids first. He'll never do it so you have to. Whatever you do, don't agree to give him $45K of your own money. [/quote]

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