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[quote=Anonymous]OP, if you had a lawyer at any point in this process, reach out to them. If your court order gives you the right to make educational decisions, then you shouldn't have to lie about this. Consult the lawyer, but don't you think the best thing would be to come clean that they are attending this school for this coming school year is best? God forbid if something happens to them at school and he finds out you lied... what if the public school he thinks they go to is on lockdown and then you have to admit they're not there? Why go down this road? Making the kids lie to him could be parental alienation, why risk that to justify a decision that you made that is good for the kids?

You've already explained they have scholarship money and family help. Child support is based on your respective incomes, typically. Again, consult the lawyer, but this should not be a reason to lie about this.

I also feel it's very toxic, that even after the divorce, he's still someone that you feel you need to tiptoe around, to anticipate and work around his potential bad reaction. I don't think that's modelling healthy behavior for your kids. You saw an issue with the public school, you resolved it, you got funding - you should feel confident about it! The reasons you gave for your decision are solid, so you say "yes, they are in private due to X,Y, Z reasons." Gently, this is something that may need to be discussed in therapy. Good luck.[/quote]

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