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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ll be the voice of dissent. Sometimes, with shitty exes, you have to be practical. It’s not ideal but it’s the best situation. But can’t they garnish his wages or something? Or jail him even?
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There is zero evidence he is a “shitty ex.”

Wherever did you get that?

He was deployed. Now he is not. He should take her to court for 50/50 now.[/quote]

You don't know the details but if I add more then you accuse me of trolling. He has made incredibly poor decisions. Even when he wasn't deployed, he wouldn't do a thing at home. He wanted me to work but also didn't want to pay for day care. And he has no interest in 50/50 considering that he lives in a one-bedroom apartment and doesn't feed the kids unless they ask. I don't even want to give the reason we divorced because you will accuse me of trolling and report the thread. [/quote]

OP, he sounds like he was an awful husband. I understand how you might have come to this set of circumstances. My mom might have done the same thing in the 90s. I remember my dad getting jerky to her about child support and what she was spending on and constantly accusing her of using him to subsidize her “luxury life” which was bogus. She dressed pretty well for work because it was required where she worked at the time but otherwise spent all her money on me and sibling. She would occasionally tell us not to mention a trip she was taking us on, or expensive items she’d given us (ex: a stepped up violin for me when I was ready for a better instrument) because whenever he found out about it, he would start accusing again and send checks late.

I suggest going to a family therapist and talking it through with and then brining your girls in to have a conversation with them about how you got to this place, and how you can move forward while being honest with them. If he’s truly an absentee dad choosing to live in a one bedroom apartment without space for his children  who won’t provide meals for them, you aren’t the one tanking their future positive relationship with daddy. [/quote]

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