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[quote=Anonymous]OP, set a boundary. Make your “no” mean something.

Brother: [says something hurtful and offensive]
You: I heard you the first time, and I’m not discussing it further. [Change the topic to *anything* else.]
Brother: [continues to be hurtful/trying to get you to engage.]
You: I’ve already asked you to stop politely. I’m going to leave. Give me a call if you’d like to meet up for dinner later.

Then remove yourself from the situation. Walk the dog, take your child to the pool, have a play date. Your brother is an adult and can entertain himself. The logical consequence of being awful to hang out with is that people don’t hang out with you. Your brother is demonstrating that he feels it’s more important to be right than to be supportive. When he asks to stay with you again, be honest, “That didn’t work out well for us last time, and I’m not willing to try again.” It will be awkward, and he will likely try to make you feel badly about that too. Say no once, attempt to redirect conversation once, and then remove yourself from the conversation. You don’t have to tolerate anything you don’t want to tolerate.[/quote]

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