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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Read No Bad Kids. You need to change how you think about this and it requires you to understand where your kid is developmentally. In short, being in trouble does nothing to help them learn to do better - and learning to do better should be your real goal.[/quote]
+1 for No Bad Kids.  Absolute game changer for this age.[/quote]

Yes, I am a responsible elder millennial parent and I have read No Bad Kids, a few times!!

The scenario is peeing on the floor on purpose. They do it to push my buttons, and they love cleaning it up. [/quote]

Throw away your buttons.
They'll get bored of pushing nothing. [/quote]

So if they don’t mind cleaning up, then just have them do that! Every time! They will get bored eventually. And yeah, don’t react. Sounds like a re-read is in order :-)[/quote]

I guess I feel like not expressing that I’m unhappy when there’s pee on the floor (not because of an accident, obviously) feels like psychopathy and like giving my kid a very warped view of myself. This isn’t like spilled cereal or thrown eggs. It seeps into the floor boards. I can wash the rug but not the rug pad. It would be insane for me to NOT be upset, wouldn’t it? “Unruffled,” sure! I’m still in control, I’m still a safe space, blah blah. But I’m obviously mad! [/quote]

You’re allowed to be mad but your original question was about making the child care that you’re mad. You can’t. It’s not developmentally appropriate. You can either approach that reality from a punitive way or a connection seeking way. They will still do crazy stuff. Ultimately if there is a recurring trouble area you can only take mitigations (like a floor covering) to decrease the impact until the kid matures a bit.[/quote]

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