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You own the house together. He has no more right to tell YOU to be the one to move than you do to tell HIM to be the one to move.

So make it about the kids, becuase it IS about the kids.

You are the one who has the younger children at ages where changing schools is more of an issue (academically and socially). Not that a move wouldn't mess with his high schooler; it would; but frankly it's going to be easier for one parent plus one HS age kid to find a place quickly than it is for one parent plus two kids at two different schools. Easlier for him and his HS kid to work out getting the kid to school than for you to work out getting two kids to two different schools. And all that is IF you were able to stay in the same school system catchment area. Changing schools should be an absolute no-go for all three kids, yours AND his, frankly, but the logistics will be simpler for one HS student (who maybe is driving and could drive him/herself to school, if outside the bus zone?) than for two elementary/middle students. And many school systems will make exceptions and keep a HS student at his or her current school if there is a family issue forcing a move out of the school boundary - your fiance needs to work NOW to inquire about that. High schools don't like to mess with students' last few years and he can make a case that his kid should stay at the current school.

Do not move, OP. If you leave the house with the kids, he could change all the locks, put your stuff on the street, anything. Don't budge. He likely will try to make life hell until you leave, but I hope not. I would gather all the pertinent information about schools, look up some potential places where HE could move and keep his kid in that kid's same HS, and would find out very fast if you can start buying him out of the house. It's ridiculous for him to tell you to move out.

And get a lawyer immediately. Try to find one with experience in property disputes between couples (unmarried) who co-own homes, because your fiance might decide to make the house a huge issue in any split. You don't need a divorce lawyer as much as you need a lawyer with experience in property disputes where both people are still living in the disputed property.

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So I agree with a lot of this, but moving a kid in high school is devastating.  Moving kids in elementary school is fine.

[b]Honestly, school hasn't started.[/b]  I'd find a place I could afford to rent in a neighborhood I'd eventually be able to buy in, and move so they start the year in the new house.  I wouldn't put my kids through living in this kind of contentious situation, or through a midyear school change.  It doesn't sound realistic for OP to keep the house financially, so I wouldn't fight for it.  I'd fight for my share of the equity of course. [/quote]

Op here. Just wanted to say that school has already started here in our county.[/quote]

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