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[quote=Anonymous]OP finally back after the kids are in bed.  So many interesting posts and perspectives.

My mom worked, but she was usually home by 4, and never brought work home with her (medical field).  I work, mostly from home, but more hours than she did — usually 45-50 hours solid hours of work. One pro is that I do have the flexibility to show up to mid day school events as long as it’s not too frequent and I know in advance to block off my calendar.

I’ll admit that in my twenties, I would have been internally judgmental of women who planned to be SAHMs. I was academically very high achieving.  I also married a man (raised by two working parents but with lots of grandparent support) who in his twenties when we first met probably would not been too keen on dating someone who wanted to be a SAHM.  But now, I don’t think he’d have a problem with me dialing back at work if it made me happy.  And he is very supportive and actually does 50% of the housework/childcare already.  We have both learned that taking care of kids is truly a full time job in itself and you can’t have it all, whether you’re a man or a woman. Something has to give.

The only issue now is financial. DH and I are basically equal in both current salary and future earning potential, so it would be a substantial cut to our finances. And unfortunately in my field, going part time is very rare, but a girl can dream. I think the most likely scenario is that we will just try to outsource more. [/quote]

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