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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was the least favorite and moved far away on purpose. I think you should ask yourself if you are staying close out of obligation, like maybe some part of you thought if you stuck nearby, your family status would shift. I would definitely seriously consider moving. Do not consign yourself to potentially decades of thankless work due to default.

In both my family and my DH's family, we have siblings who stuck close by our parents. However in both cases, these siblings have been doted on and received way more assistance as adults than we'd have even thought to ask for -- free childcare and housing provided for years, in some cases decades, graduate school paid for, free meals, etc. These siblings chose not to create independent lives from our parents. We do feel that they should take on the heavy lifting for long-term care as a result, but it has to do with not just their proximity but the degree to which they have relied upon our parents for most of their adult lives.[/quote]

I assume you are a gen Xer? Interesting rationale you have for assigning who should take care of aging parents.

I’m wondering how would this apply to people in younger generations (current 20 somethings) who tend to never move out of their parents house, even as adults and are basically still financially dependent on their parents in some way? Should they all take care of their parents when that time comes? [/quote]

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