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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mean girls in my neighborhood did this. The Queen Bee kicked me out and I later saw social media posts and tagging for weekend parties to which I was no longer invited.

I unfollowed them all to avoid seeing the posts and set about nurturing friendships with non-aholes.

Queen Bee kicked out a few other people after me and even shut off access to her children to those people’s kids! Their kids had been friends and now the left out kids wondered why they could not see their friends at these gatherings.

I felt miserable yet did feel a bit better when I learned I was not the only one kicked out.

I basically cut out every woman “close” to her to save myself the mental anguish.

Queen Bee moved away. Another woman moved away.

The problem took care of itself.

Play the long game. You will win. [/quote]

Glad you got out but WTF with the middle school level drama? How does any set of adult friends even have a "queen bee" who has the magical authority to "kick out" anyone from anything worthwhile? Why do the children have to be friends with the children of the queen and the others in the Very Special In-Group? Don't women and their kids have more than one source of friendships? It's all such immature bulls**t. I'm in the DC suburbs and we never had these social cliques, queen bees, kids used as little pawns, etc. that I read about in this post and in others on DCUM.

OP, if your so-called friends don't invite you to something, either use your words like an adult and say, "I saw you on social media and am frankly disappointed I wasn't invited," get new friends, or get off social media. [/quote]

I’m in agreement with this, and I’ve posted my experience here tonight. So I’m on the same page as you.

When you write about “I saw you.. and frankly disappointed.”

That’s where it gets tricky.

Everyone can hang out with whoever they want. So I’d be left out, and sitting there like, well, we’re all free to choose our invites. I surely wouldn’t want someone mad at me for limiting my dinner party to 5. Sorry, gotta choose somewhere.

But, there’s more behavior that makes it questionable, and you can’t call them out directly.
-such as the lady above who said they called her husband 
-never trying out a new friendship with a newbie
-seeing another newbie and inviting them right in as though they’re sisters—and still--never inviting another new person
-tagging private parties on social media (JUST TEXT each other your pictures. Which was the method you used to privately invite each other)
-playing other crazy games[/quote]

You focused hard here on just one of three things I said. You focused just on calling them out, in your list above, and situations where you can't do that.

If you can't call them out, then do the other two things I said: [i]Get new friends, or get off social media.[/i] Really, do both.

Stop giving a damn about them. Real friends do not act like middle schoolers and "play crazy games." Don't expend the energy wishing you could call them out. Be too busy to accept invitations and too busy with other friends, or your family, to issue invitations to them. I truly do not understand CARING about the actions of women who do the things you listed.

They are taking up precious mental real estate in your head, yet they are not giving [i]you[/i] a thought. Ponder that for a moment.[/quote]

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