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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are a reasonably well off UMC family. No complaints about our finances or lifestyle.

We are friends with a family who used to be kind of in our ballpark financially, but in the last few years have moved into a much, much higher income bracket. I feel like the family friendship has handled that shift really well -- our kids are still great friends, and when we all get together, our dynamic is pretty much the same.

But when I get together 1:1 with just my fellow mom friend, the dynamic has changed quite a bit and I'm starting to feel a little frustrated. The main thing is that as their income has gone up, it has changed a bunch of stuff about her life and I think there's some anxiety there from all the change. Stuff like joining a country club, taking much more extravagant vacations, shopping for a house upgrade, etc. It all makes sense for their new financial situation but she just talks about this stuff sooooo much. Our conversations have become very one-sided and the stuff she's talking to me about, I can't relate to at all. Like I can see how buying a 10 million dollar house is stressful and huge, but I have a limited amount I can contribute to that conversation. Especially because she's not really in the mood for joking about it -- she's capital S stressed.

The last 3-4x we've hung out, I've listened to her talk at length about financial investments, private schools, real estate, and vacation planning. These conversations are weirdly joyless -- she is essentially complaining but then she'll throw in "I know it's a good problem to have" or "I know how lucky we are." I'm not judging her. I get this transition has been weird. But I have stuff going on in my own life and I'm starting to feel like I'm just there to provide emotional support to her as she struggles with getting super rich. I feel like it's something she she talk to a professional about, and I'd love to get back to more give and take and discussing things that we can both relate to (kids generally, celebrity gossip, health/exercise, books and movies, etc. -- the fun stuff!).

How do I raise this with her? I don't want to come off as resentful (and I really am not, to be honest she is making their sudden wealthy look kind of unappealing) and I don't want to hurt her feelings or lose her as a friend. But I also don't want this dynamic to continue because if it does I don't think our friendship will survive it.[/quote]

Either be happy for her, and play nice - like an adult - or, if you can't those things without being a user or being resentful, it is time to move on.  Fairly easy, OP.

Incidentally, why so many buyouts lately? My neighborhood is full of 30 somethings buying their first home, which is big and new. [/quote]

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