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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][img][quote=Anonymous]Amazing how wrong everyone’s advice here is.

Op get a copy of The Defiant Child by Kazdin. If you cannot successfully implement a plan on your own, seek out a behavioral psychologist.

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+1. From the book: “ Myth 1. Punishment will change bad behavior. Parents typically assume that punishing a child will teach a lesson by “sending a message.” So punishment is often a parent’s first and last option when it comes to changing a child’s behavior. Depending on your style of parenting and your mood at any given moment, you decree time-outs, take away a privilege, shout Stop that!, or use nonverbal displays of exasperation like eye-rolling and sighing. Maybe you hit a little, or even a lot. If you’re like most parents, you start out with milder punishments and escalate to more severe ones. Whether you do it mildly or severely, calmly or angrily, systematically or randomly, you probably find yourself punishing your child a great deal, and when you’re not punishing, you’re threatening to punish.”

Punishment increases aggressiveness, drives the child to try to avoid and escape you, and prompts child to adapt in ways to make the punishment useless.[/quote]

Everyone’s advice has actually been to stop letting the kid watch so much TV because he has shown it results in bad behavior.  That’s not what the paragraph describes- it’s setting the kid up for success and admitting reality.  [/quote]

Cutting down or eliminating screen time is not going to magically eliminate all of the behaviors. And when kids engage in truly unacceptable behavior (swearing, physical aggression) they need to learn to control it even under less than ideal circumstances like being told to turn off the TV after too much screen time. [/quote]

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