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DP but I would be as furious as OP, maybe for a different reason.  I truly cannot imagine staying with someone who cheated on me and if I did I'm 100% certain that one condition of our "rebuilding" would be that no one can know that it happened.  He can't go around bragging about his growth or whatever to our family, friends, old high school buddies.  It's a terrible betrayal to have your spouse cheat.  But it's absolutely humiliating to have him tell other people about how he cheated but you're going to stick with him anyway, even if he was telling this other woman for a "sweet" reason (which I have my reservations about).[/quote]

I don't see it as a bragging and don't think they have anything remotely like your condition on rebuilding. But... it was dumb especially considering it was an ex-gf and he should have talked to OP first.  He probably thought he was doing something good and asking for more advise from someone that went through it - a really badly executed plan but coming from good intent.  Given it was HS, it likely didn't even occur to him that it was an old gf, just an old friend.  I can barely remember any detail from HS relationships - or even care anymore.  It doesn't seem like either of them are hiding anything, OP has told friends and family, he has told friends and family.  [b]Heck, we are all reading about it here which is only pseudo anonymous. [/b] If they were worried about people knowing, they would have kept it to their therapists and themselves completely.  Doesn't seem like humiliation is a driver here, more so him being stupid and unthoughtful - not thinking thru what this action is perceived as - which given the history she laid out is one of the root issues they are working on around communication.[/quote]

Pseudo anonymous? [/quote]

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