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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My aunt and uncle (siblings) have decided that their children are irresponsible and so they want to leave their assets (one is high 7 figures) and real estate to me. They think because I am their version of responsible I will not squander the money as they assume their children will do. I don't want this and have said so, but they aren't listening. I know wills can change, but if I do end up inheriting, would I be wrong if I just give the money and houses to their children? Would you? [/quote]

Often in with really dysfunctional parents they do splitting-people are all good and all bad and 1-dimensional. Their  children could have met a whole list of expectations, but they are "bad" because they rebelled in some way and now you, who they don't know as well as they know their own kids are so "good" because of your resume and you are nice to them. You are smart not to want to get sucked in. They are creating discord and not just the cousins could turn on you, but the parents. They could have all sorts of unspoken strings and then when you can't fly out when one in the hospital you become the demon.

I certainly hope the adult children know they are being disowned. I know of one case where the mom had no problem having the adult child coordinating all care, visiting often and advocating at the nursing home, putting up with all sorts of verbally and emotionally abusive behavior and the mom left her out of the will and rewarded the siblings who did almost nothing.

I would just put in writing you don't want it. If you are very close to the cousins and know their character, I would let them know what is going on and see if they want you to CC them on that correspondence.

Also,if you take it things could get ugly beyond them hating you. They might find a lawyer willing to sue and see if they can find a way to prove you duped the parents. Do you even know if they are cognitively OK? With age some get paranoid so this could be someone deteriorating you is suddenly paranoid about the kids and sees you as some sort of saint.

I am always skeptical of a person who puts me on a pedestal because those are the people who throw you right off it quickly. It's good that you are not getting sucked in. Make things clear and detach.[/quote]

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