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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I only have 1 child, a 16 yo son.  He rarely comes from his room other than to eat and say good morning.  I would like him to spend some time out of his room other than eating meals.  Is this normal?  How do you engage a son at this age?

He does volunteer work that he enjoys about 12 hours a week; plays soccer twice a week; has an online tutor; is attending hour long sessions on how to prepare for college (which I signed him up for) so he's not inside  and playing games and mindless youtube videos all day.  He does not see any friends live, but texts and snapchats them daily too.  We watch a show together a few nights a week, at my suggestion.

Will someone please reality check me?  What is reasonable? 
Do you have expectations that your teen not be in room all day?
If so, what do you expect?  How do you engage?

TIA.

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OP, your son who is "in his room all day":
-volunteers 12 hrs/week
-plays soccer twice a week
-has an online tutor
-attends hour-long college prep classes 
-watches a show with you multiple times a week

(Sincerely) what would you like him to do? [/quote]

+1 yeah OP this is good for a 16 YO. Not sure what more you are looking for.[/quote]

OP again—

I’m pleased with son. Would like him to spend time in the living room some and be more engaged.  [/quote]

OP you're starting this "family bonding time wish" a little too late.

I have two teen sons and we always had a rule of no electronics in the bedrooms. The TV, computers and charging stations are all on the main floor/family area so they really don't spend much time in their rooms.

We have gaming area and a big comfy couch in the family room. We also torn a wall down and made an open area between the kitchen and family room so we're always all "together". The boys love it because is also easy access to the kitchen.

Since your teen is probably used to gravitating to his room I would start by asking him to eat dinner together then move to watching a movie/series together and go from there. 
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