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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you’re in an open marriage, do your kids know? [/quote]

Why would someone EVER tell your kids this!!!??? [/quote]

People who don't think it's wrong and don't want to lie to their kids about who they're spending time with. [/quote]

I get that boundaries really aren't your thing but your kids really don't need to know everything you do.[/quote]

So because our boundaries are not identical you think I have none?

Cute.

I’ll decide what my kids need to know. Thanks. [/quote]

Of course you will because you and your fetish are all that matters and your fetish isn't real or exciting if everyone including children are involved.

Discussing your sex life nis generally frowned upon and considered abusive by some.

But you do you [/quote]

ENM isn’t a fetish.

Who is discussing sex life?

Keep showing your ignorance and assumptions. It’s funny. [/quote]

It’s not a fetish but it IS about sex. Getting kids involved in that discussion is inappropriate IMO, just like discussing other sexual practices would be. I guess if there is a committed other relationship where the other partner will be introduced to the kids, then you might be more justified in explaining the relationship. But that’s also what makes ENM seem so weird - it’s hard enough to manage a step-parent situation. How can you possibly manage a 3rd party integrated into the family?[/quote]

It’s often about sex but for many poly people it’s a need to have numerous close relationships (that can be intense and dramatic). [/quote]

The desire for multiple "intense and dramatic" relationships sounds immature to me and incompatible with healthy parenting approaches.

The only way I think ENM would work with kids and not screw with those relationships would be if the marriage was stable and boring, and the side relationships were also stable and boring. Kids need stable and boring. The child-rearing years are all about creating that stability for children, it is not a good time to pursue anything intense and dramatic. If you can do it in a way that has absolutely zero drama, then why not tell the kids about it because these relationships are all boring AF anyway and then the kids understand what's going on.

If your interest in ENM is based on wanting lots of variety and uncertainty in your life, intensifying emotions by adding elements of jealousy and secrecy to your relationships, my advice is just: don't have kids.[/quote]

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