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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have young adult children who are still in college but live on their own but my ex wife and I still support them.  They have been coming over more than usual (mostly weekends) because I have a pool not necessarily to visit me.  lol  Sometimes they bring their friends.

My kids can come over whenever they want and don't have to call or knock.  They have keys to the house.  It has never occurred to me to ask them to call first.  Its a very foreign concept to me to do otherwise.

I have a gf and we have been together 3 years and she stays over a lot.  Maybe 4/7 days a week.  We have talked about her moving in but she told me I needed to create some boundaries with my kids.  She said they needed to call first or be invited.  Maybe not come over quite so much and to limit how long they stayed and limit their pool time.

I told her she was being offensive and she would never ever dictate anything regarding my kids.  The way I looked at it we could either break up or keep the status quo of living separately.  She started crying and she told me our family dynamics were not normal.  I told her since she had no children she could not make that judgment.  I was talking to my ex wife husband who is also my best friend and asked him for advice.  He said he is the same way with his kids and if my ex wife ever came to him with that garbage he would divorce her and is sure she would do the same.

Am I off base here?  I really think I need to break up with her.  This has never been an issue before.[/quote]

You are not off base, your kids should always come first![/quote]

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