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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]thanks for all the great opinions. I thought i would just invite her to look at my page (which is under a pseudonym so not easily found) so she can see photos. It's "public" so she does not have to "friend" me to see it - right?
 
[b]It was an "open" adoption and I happen to know she went to a very well-off family and had a privileged upbringing, had a brother, went to a gorgeous university, etc. Her parents were very loving and grateful and i can't imagine she really felt THAT rejected.[/b]
 
I was a poor, messed up teenager. Do adopted children understand this about their birthmothers? I was not drug addicted, I just could not offer her what a child deserves, and knew there were hundreds of families out there that could.
 
[b]Also, in my personal adoption file, I put "please don't contact" (it's a choice birthmothers have in open adoptions) and she did anyway so I don't feel that bad about that, either.[/b]
 
And thanks for the "wait til the weekend" advice- i'll do that.[/quote]

From your second post, it doesn't seem like you are very sensitive to this young woman's feelings.  If this is truly where you are coming from, it might be better not to contact her right now.  [/quote]

I agree with the PP.  Having money and a fancy college degree does not take away the hurt of being rejected by your birth mother.[/quote]

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