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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This has me thinking about a friend of mine who has no siblings and is in a long-term partnership with a woman who has no siblings. They don't have kids and don't plan to. Not only will they not have any kids to help look after them in old age, they don't even have any nieces or nephews! [/quote]

There is going to be an even bigger industry of people for hire to do everything. Don't kid yourself. Plenty of our own kids will use those services for us.It is one thing when an elder lives in terrible shape for a year or 2. You bust your buns and take leave from work and do yourself in for mom and/or dad, but you will warm and fuzzy knowing you could be there for them even if they were ornery. We all have a limit and after enough years and worsening behavior any rational person will need to throw on their own oxygen mask and contract it ALL out even if they can afford. You get an expert to assess their needs and manage the services and that person is trained to deal with difficult behavior. Plus, the difficult parents won't know what buttons to push to trigger these people. You can hire people to manage finances so your siblings don't go accusing you of funny business. You can hire people to help them downsize and move. Then you just show up to check on things and bring some sunshine and then get back to your job/kids/commitments/doctor's appointments/LIFE. As we age we cannot eat alive our own children. We either plan with continued care or give our blessing and save so they can hire a team and not spend what can amount to over a decade doing in the health and sanity. Oh and those of you who had the loving sweet elderly parents who aged gracefully without many needs....lucky you, but you may have no clue what is can turn into.[/quote]

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