Reply to Wanting to divorce a “recovered” spouse

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Wanting to divorce a “recovered” spouse"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is ok to be done. Everything he is doing may just be too little, too late.[/quote]

+1 And OP is always going to be looking over her shoulder, waiting for a relapse. That sort of vigilance is exhausting.[/quote]

I am sort of getting over this particular worry very slowly.  A few months is nothing when you have been married 15 years, but it’s something.  I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, I am trying to forgive for the sake of our kids, but I can’t make myself feel anything.  The only thing I feel is a deep desire to leave him.[/quote]

You don’t have to forgive.

You have to process everything. You know he has a long term anger rage side, and now he’s Prince Charming a couple months.

You can accept that he’s trying, hopefully FOR YOU, to be a better, nicer person. That is all you have to do.

He IS doing this for you right? Does he state that, unprompted?  He’s not doing this for his image or ego or kids. He needs to make it clear he’s doing it for you and the marriage. Tell your therapist this in the side.

Maybe something feels off in your gut because of motive.?.  (In addition to the PTSD or Ongoing Trauma)[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics