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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  No I haven't really made mom friends [b]in the sense that I would invite one out for coffee or lunch and they would accept[/b], or who are interested in getting to know me.  More mom friends in the sense that if I had a question about something I would feel comfortable texting to ask, but we don't meet up without the kids.  I wish I could make mom friends in the class or at the school, but none of them seem interested, and most are all friends with each other.

Yes, my child is an only.  I've noticed that the families with same age kids all hang out together and are family friends, and that unfortunately leaves us with no families to hang out with since my kid is the only only child in the class.[/quote]

How do you know? Have you tried? Adults are notoriously terrible at making friendships, particularly when it requires putting ourselves out there and being open to rejection. I'm a fellow introvert so 100% get this, as well as the tendency to assume that people will say no. (Also - any chance your introversion comes with a healthy dose of social anxiety? It's pretty common and makes reaching out even harder.)

I'd suggest picking one of those friends who you're comfortable texting with a question and sending a message along the lines of "Hey - it was great catching up a bit at [insert recent school event]. I'd love a chance to pick your brain more about [insert something school-related - volunteer roles, the second grade teachers, your experience at the school, whatever]. Would you have time to grab coffee and chat after drop-off some day?"

You're going to feel super awkward. They may say no. They may say yes and you'll meet and nothing will come of it. You may hit it off. No matter what the outcome, do it again with another parent. Building a social network is hard and requires continuous work. But you can do it. Good luck![/quote]

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