Anonymous wrote:OP here. I would love some tips on how to be charismatic, as I am definitely not! I have no idea how to be more like that. I'm more of a serious type of introvert who prefers one on one conversation.

The dressing well part is easy to do and I do make an effort in that area. I don't think anyone notices or cares though.

Some of the moms have older kids and yes, those families do hang out together. Most of the class has a child in first grade (our class) and then one in third or fourth. And the rest of the moms have a child in our class and a younger sibling, and they all hang out together. Whenever I invite my child's first grade friends on a playdate out somewhere, the moms always bring the older or younger siblings, which I find a bit annoying. Unless it's a playdate at our house, they always bring the siblings, even if it's an activity the other sibling wouldn't really like. So I feel like we are the odd ones out, being the only only child family in the class because we don't have another family we connect with in that way.

But it really bothers me when I attend the all-class events or school events, and I'll try to make small talk with a mom, and she'll chat for a polite minute or two and then make an excuse and leave. How do I handle this problem? I don't get why I'm not interesting enough to chat with for a few minutes. I find it very off-putting.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am definitely not charismatic. More of an introvert. Do I present well? I'm not really sure. I'm slim and dress nicely, not frumpy, but not anything special. I have an interesting job.

When we're at events, like the end of the year program, the other parents will chat with me for like 2 minutes and then cut the conversation short to move on to talk to someone more interesting. I've definitely noticed this at school events. I have tried to get to know them but they definitely don't seem interested in getting to know me. I don't really know what is going on with that.

This is not going to be popular but here goes.. Dress well (make an effort) so you'll stand out. Throw on a love bangle, wear your Hermes bag, etc. Avoid "comfy" clothes. Then, be assertive. Continue to be a part of the conversation. If people are floating around and float past you after a hello, then follow them and float around yourself.

Ask others questions that they will be proud to answer. People love talking about themselves. "I noticed you have a fully electric vehicle. That's fab. Tell me the difference its made in your life..etc.."

Yeah, bring a 12K+ bag to the playground. That's not weird at all.

Poor attempt at trolling.

That PP above you is probably talking about pick ups.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am definitely not charismatic. More of an introvert. Do I present well? I'm not really sure. I'm slim and dress nicely, not frumpy, but not anything special. I have an interesting job.

When we're at events, like the end of the year program, the other parents will chat with me for like 2 minutes and then cut the conversation short to move on to talk to someone more interesting. I've definitely noticed this at school events. I have tried to get to know them but they definitely don't seem interested in getting to know me. I don't really know what is going on with that.

This is not going to be popular but here goes.. Dress well (make an effort) so you'll stand out. Throw on a love bangle, wear your Hermes bag, etc. Avoid "comfy" clothes. Then, be assertive. Continue to be a part of the conversation. If people are floating around and float past you after a hello, then follow them and float around yourself.

Ask others questions that they will be proud to answer. People love talking about themselves. "I noticed you have a fully electric vehicle. That's fab. Tell me the difference its made in your life..etc.."

Yeah, bring a 12K+ bag to the playground. That's not weird at all.

Poor attempt at trolling.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am definitely not charismatic. More of an introvert. Do I present well? I'm not really sure. I'm slim and dress nicely, not frumpy, but not anything special. I have an interesting job.

When we're at events, like the end of the year program, the other parents will chat with me for like 2 minutes and then cut the conversation short to move on to talk to someone more interesting. I've definitely noticed this at school events. I have tried to get to know them but they definitely don't seem interested in getting to know me. I don't really know what is going on with that.

This is not going to be popular but here goes.. Dress well (make an effort) so you'll stand out. Throw on a love bangle, wear your Hermes bag, etc. Avoid "comfy" clothes. Then, be assertive. Continue to be a part of the conversation. If people are floating around and float past you after a hello, then follow them and float around yourself.

Ask others questions that they will be proud to answer. People love talking about themselves. "I noticed you have a fully electric vehicle. That's fab. Tell me the difference its made in your life..etc.."

Anonymous wrote:I don’t reciprocate bc we live in an apartment. It’s nothing personal.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No I haven't really made mom friends in the sense that I would invite one out for coffee or lunch and they would accept, or who are interested in getting to know me. More mom friends in the sense that if I had a question about something I would feel comfortable texting to ask, but we don't meet up without the kids. I wish I could make mom friends in the class or at the school, but none of them seem interested, and most are all friends with each other.

Yes, my child is an only. I've noticed that the families with same age kids all hang out together and are family friends, and that unfortunately leaves us with no families to hang out with since my kid is the only only child in the class.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I would love some tips on how to be charismatic, as I am definitely not! I have no idea how to be more like that. I'm more of a serious type of introvert who prefers one on one conversation.

The dressing well part is easy to do and I do make an effort in that area. I don't think anyone notices or cares though.

Some of the moms have older kids and yes, those families do hang out together. Most of the class has a child in first grade (our class) and then one in third or fourth. And the rest of the moms have a child in our class and a younger sibling, and they all hang out together. Whenever I invite my child's first grade friends on a playdate out somewhere, the moms always bring the older or younger siblings, which I find a bit annoying. Unless it's a playdate at our house, they always bring the siblings, even if it's an activity the other sibling wouldn't really like. So I feel like we are the odd ones out, being the only only child family in the class because we don't have another family we connect with in that way.

But it really bothers me when I attend the all-class events or school events, and I'll try to make small talk with a mom, and she'll chat for a polite minute or two and then make an excuse and leave. How do I handle this problem? I don't get why I'm not interesting enough to chat with for a few minutes. I find it very off-putting.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No I haven't really made mom friends in the sense that I would invite one out for coffee or lunch and they would accept, or who are interested in getting to know me. More mom friends in the sense that if I had a question about something I would feel comfortable texting to ask, but we don't meet up without the kids. I wish I could make mom friends in the class or at the school, but none of them seem interested, and most are all friends with each other.

Yes, my child is an only. I've noticed that the families with same age kids all hang out together and are family friends, and that unfortunately leaves us with no families to hang out with since my kid is the only only child in the class.