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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anyone notice how the mean girl’s friends are never as pretty or as rich as her? She purposefully selects her entourage to be people who appear inferior to her in some way.[/quote]

This is definitely a real phenomenon and also reminds me of something else.

The stereotype of the "mean girl" is that they bully the shy, nerdy, unpopular kids. And that does happen sometimes. But what seems to be more common is that mean girls will go after peers they view to be threats. The new girl with nice hair who is good at volleyball, or the kid in class who gets straight As, wants to go to med school, and seems sure of herself. [b]I have noticed that mean girls are more likely to express dislike for, spread rumors about, or attempt to exclude someone like that. And as an outsider, it seems pretty obvious that it stems from insecurity -- they view those people as threats and seek to undermine their potential power.[/b]

Another phenomenon I've seen is how easily someone becomes what they are accused of being in these social dynamics. I coached a popular recreational activity for middle-school age kids for a while, and I remember watching this happen sometimes. A kid would get singled out for being "weird" even though, from my perspective, all the kids are at least a little weird in some way or another (puberty does that to you). And it's like the more kids said this about someone, the more weird they appeared. They'd just withdraw into themselves. This age makes it especially easy to apply labels to someone and have them stick, or just intimidate them into being what you insist they are. It's really frustrating.[/quote]

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Insecurity is an understatement.  Mean girls' biggest fear is that they will be "found out" - all that matters is appearances, in almost every single aspect of the mean girls life. [/quote]

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