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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry OP.  Breakups are hard.  10 months in a long time.  Be nice to yourself and work hard to let him go.  If he doesn't want you he doesn't deserve you.  Hugs. [/quote]
I’m pathetic. [b]I already texted him and said I’m not ready to end this.[/b] He wrote back okay, I’m free at 12. I guess we both technically ended it because when he broached the subject he was like “I don’t want this to be a one time convo,” and then when I asked well why did you have me meet your siblings he was like “I didn’t really have a way out,” at which point I just got my things and left. So idk what he wants. He’s never been in a fully adult relationship, didn’t lose his virginity until recently…maybe he doesn’t know?[/quote]

PP who just posted above (while you were writing this, I guess) that you should not pursue him to get him back. Oh, OP, please don't see him at 12. Just one last text to say it was a mistake and you're done, then block him on text and all social media, phone, etc. You really need to LISTEN to what he's saying beneath the garbled words he's using.

The part about siblings is out of context somehow but please, the statement about "I didn't really have a way out" is terrible. He was saying, in reality: "I didn't WANT you to meet them but it was more awkward to avoid it than just to go through with it." Why can't you see that's what he actually means here? He's immature, OP, extremely immature and you say so yourself: "He's never been in a fully adult relationship." And "fully adult" really has nothing to do with sex or virginity or loss of virginity, OP. [b]Maturity in a relationship is about good communication, knowing what you do and don't want, and wanting the best for the other person. He's not hitting those goals with you, OP. He's immature and not just sexually.[/b]

Don't meet him and drag out this immature break-up. Don't say "idk what he wants." He wants to not be with you; learn to take no for an answer here. Move ON. It's not easy but yes, it's doable. Don't yoke yourself to a man-child who ran as soon as he thought you wanted more.[/quote]

Disagree with this. I think he sounds pretty mature; it is OP at 30 who sounds immature. He told her he's not all in and that this is not what he wants. You can't get more clear than that. And he said that OP deserves someone who can give her more, which shows that he does care about her on some level, to your other definition of maturity.

OP, I know you're sad and he sounds like he's a great guy. But the other PPs are right. Do NOT waste another minute of your life pursuing this relationship. If he changes his mind, he'll be in touch. Otherwise, you need to move on.[/quote]

All of this.
A wise person told me don't ever let a man tell you twice he doesn't want you.
I also doubt this is truly out of the blue there have been signs that were ignored 
Don't beg for a man op. Leave him be and please work on your self esteem so you can have a healthy relationship [/quote]

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