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[quote=Anonymous]I live your life but I’m farther in than you and where you say college, insert HS. We didn’t let our child either away. But we can’t allow our family to be terrorized and life cannot revolve solely around him. Here’s what we did:

- Took away all access to our money. That meant we had to lock our credit cards and cash and jewelry in our cars and sleep with our keys. He got a job.

-  Took away his access to our cars. Again, sleeping with keys. But we don’t think he’s safe. I gave him a metro pass and add money to it. Plus we all help drive him places that we approve of when we can.

-  Call police for every single violent episode. We say we won’t intervene but he’s never gotten arrested so that hasn’t been tested.

-  Decided our line in the sand for him to live with us. For us that means no smoking, vaping, or using drugs in the house and no bringing any related materials into the house. He can store things outside but not where the dogs can get to it. We know he drinks in his room but he keeps it there and we decided to live with that. Taking medication as prescribed is also an requirement.

Reaching this point has improved our lives dramatically and we’re living pretty peacefully right now. And he’s actually pleasant and appreciates what we do for him. He doesn’t want to leave so he’s conceded to our requirements and we’ve allowed some things that we don’t love, like incense burning. But the big key was deciding our lines in the sand and making them clear.

It’s not easy and I’m not sure my son will ever live independently. But who knows. Four years ago we didn’t except ext he’d still be alive at this point so anything can happen. [/quote]

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