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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. In the interest of being more clear, this thread was prompted by this recent misunderstanding:

My family has been planning a trip to Europe this summer, but after seeing flight prices and assessing some savings goals, we decided to switch our plans and do a domestic trip out west.

I told my friend about the change of plans when we were discussing our summer plans and said, “yes I’m a bit disappointed but we’ll just have to do Europe another year when it makes more sense financially.”

At no point did I say I had money issues, complain about our income, or ask for help with finances.

She took this to mean that we are in dire financial straights. She brings it up every time I see her. She has started suggesting career changes for me to boost my income and will say things like “I know money is tight, maybe we could do a girls night at home instead of going out because it’s cheaper.”

I have told her several times, very clearly, “ Money is good, I’m not having money issues. Just made a change based on priorities.” She does not listen and now thinks I’m trying to put a good spin on it.

That’s the kind of thing I’m talking about. [/quote]

I find this is common in the DC area OP. People value status, and when someone else mentions a change that is not "statusy" they can't seem to process it and can't fathom that someone else would make a different decision. My SIL does this all the time, and I've gotten so I just don't tell her much of anything.

Don't think it's about you so much, as it's about other people who are on a completely different wavelength. You may not want to mention reasons why you do.things, because I have found people who value status can not fathom why I do the things I do.[/quote]

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