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[quote=Anonymous]Personally I don't think this is divorce worthy. I think he's right on a certain level - that's just who he is. You can only control yourself, you can't control how someone else is in conflict, or anything. I'm speaking from experience - whenever there's conflict outside of our marriage like you're describing, my husband automatically shifts to "good cop" and leaves me to do "bad cop." Sometimes it's in the moment, often it's planned. Ex: we're heading into the principal's office for what we know is going to be a contentious meeting. He says "I'll just let you do the talking, you see to have this covered." So I do. I play that role, he gets to be good cop, and I don't care because the result is what's important. So what's the result you're looking for? Don't worry so much about how you get there but the result. If you wanted to defend your position, defend it to the MIL, to the guy who came at you. Let it rip. You don't need him to do it for you. What you DO need, however, is that he'll back you up if you go into those roles. My husband backs me up because he knows that, even if he doesn't agree 100% with what I say or how I say it in those situations he put us both in that position and has to live with what happens. [/quote]

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