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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes and no. I got a great education @ a CTCL on a mix of merit and FAFSA, worked for a decade on an incredibly exciting international issue, attended an Ivy for grad, and went on to more exciting work. Met a great DH and have wonderful kids. Sadly they are aware that there are plenty of judgy people about where their mother went to college. "Where is that?"

Frankly, I probably would not have had that first part of my career as there were less than a handful of colleges in the US with that opportunity and none with that depth. So, it was great for me and I also know that my kids did not want that kind of "anonymity" for themselves. [/quote]

[b]Holy crap. Is this real?  Your kids get asked this?[/quote][/b]

I've been in a lot of schools, public and private, and I've never heard anything like that.  I went to a small second or third-rate college on the west coast.  No one has every said anything about it.  Or to my kids.  Frankly people don't care that much.  So either PP is trolling for fun or has an issue[/quote]

My kids attend a small private on scholarship and my oldest who is nearing college application age is beginning to get some questions from classmates and their parents about where us parents attended. The kids will talk about where they have visited and if they have legacy and then they will ask my kids, same with the parents. Some of it is pretty normal, typical conversation to make and sometimes you get a weird feeling about why some people care so much and what they think of you based on your answer. Some parents seem genuinely curious and non-judgemental, but you do have a handful of parents who still lament that they "only went to" Duke or Cornell and "want better for their children." Meanwhile I'm over here, happy to be employed by a regional state school so our kids get tuition benefits and sometimes get told that "kids need to go away for college." It's definitely a different culture than I am used to and I was genuinely surprised when the topic of conversation began to crop up because I have never been questioned on that in the office or academia, ever. Still, I'm hoping I've instilled in my children that people are much more than who they were in high school and where they attended college and also not to feel embarrassed on our behalf and likewise to remain non-judgement and happy for others.[/quote]

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