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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents and ILs want to be invited to everything for DC. Currently MIL is mad at me because we didn’t invite them to a school program. It honestly didn’t occur to me. This was a first school program we as PARENTS had every even been to due to Covid. My grandparents never came to any of my school programs. I doubt my parents invited them. Some times I just want to do things with just our immediate family.

[b]Also, they very rarely offer to help out with DC. [i]I’m in desperate need of help a couple hours 2x a week for the summer that they could easily help with, but nope.

What’s typical for your family? We already see one set of grandparents weekly, another every couple of weeks. [/quote]This makes me think you want a quid pro quo relationship.  [/quote]

Oh yeah, it's so unreasonable for OP to question why grandparents want to come to every last event but can't offer to babysit for an hour every couple months to give her some breathing room. Why should the grandparents get a relationship only on their terms?[/quote]

Op here. Thank you. I’ve spent $100K plus on all forms of childcare. I’m not asking them to take care of my kid for lengths at a time, just maybe offer to help when you hear we have a scheduling issue or offer for a date night. For having 4 able bodied grandparents within 20 min of us, we sure are on an island [/quote]

If you have $100K to spend on childcare they probably assume you can afford a little more.  Not all grandparents want to babysit, some would prefer to just go to a school event.  When you are a grandparent you can be whatever kind you want to be.[/quote]

Op hers. I mean, this is over the course of YEARS. We are decently well off now, but definitely weren’t when we first had DC. We did alright, but childcare costs were really tough. And that’s fine, that’s on us, we decided to have kids, but none of the 4 of them have been very helpful even just for occasional breaks. Or even just to spend time with DC outside of a “formal” event.[/quote]

Your kids must be very young if you've never been to a school event before. And is it kid or kids? If it's multiple young kids that's a lot to ask old people to take on all summer. In exchange for an invite to some school event? Not exactly a fair bargain.[/quote]

Not OP, but I have a 3rd grader and this school year is the first we’ve been to school events since a winter classroom party for kindergarten in 2020. Outdoor sports have been normal for an over a year, but last school year my children’s teachers did not allow any in-classroom volunteers or parties because of Covid. There were no field trips and the school play and concerts were limited only to the 4th and 5th graders participating- 2 adults per child limit. Preschool was the same 2020-2022 - drop off and pick up outside, no in person events. We had to have an “unofficial” preschool graduation at a park near the school. [/quote]

So the kids are young.  They would nothing not have been in school prior to 2020.[/quote]

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