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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents and ILs want to be invited to everything for DC. Currently MIL is mad at me because we didn’t invite them to a school program. It honestly didn’t occur to me. This was a first school program we as PARENTS had every even been to due to Covid. My grandparents never came to any of my school programs. I doubt my parents invited them. Some times I just want to do things with just our immediate family.

Also, they very rarely offer to help out with DC. I’m in desperate need of help a couple hours 2x a week for the summer that they could easily help with, but nope.

What’s typical for your family? We already see one set of grandparents weekly, another every couple of weeks. [/quote]

What is typeical for our family is that grandparents and uncles and aunts (both sides) are clued in about events. I also share school or EC events through a google calendar. [b]That way if someone wants to come they do.[/b]  I will also send info in group chats.  We usually take "guests" and the kids afterwards to some $ chain restaurants. Think  Tor Taco, Red Lobster, Olive Garden, 5 guys...or order take-outs at home.  Sometimes we will get something from chicfila or even Taco Bell.

I have never asked any one to help with kids as I had a nanny/housekeeper at home. I used to WFH and DH and I also tried to be there with the kids as much as we could by staggering our work (inspite of having a nanny/housekeeper).  IF grandparents wanted to hang out with the grandkids they were always welcome at our home with the nanny around.  Also, when my parents wanted to take kids out to the park etc, the nanny went along.  It was not a burden for anyone to take care of my kids because the backup of nanny was always there.   At the end of the day - my kids are my responsibility and I would never expect grandparents to help out. Yes, they could enjoy the grandkids and my kids got to enjoy the family BUT they are also elderly, I would never want them to get tired. [/quote]

Once they get older, almost every activity is on the web, like HS sports schedules.  Grandparents should be clued into these, and of course should feel welcome to attend.  You’re a control freak if you think these events should be by invitation only.[/quote]

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