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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is your relationship now with your adopted family, siblings, parents when they were alive or if they are still alive, and extended cousins,  etc.?

As you are older now,  how have you framed (or reframed, most likely) your life experience? [/quote]

I was born in the early 80's and adopted. I'm still very close with my family ([b]why wouldn't I be?). [/b]I don't understand your second question. [/quote]

:roll: [/quote]

What with the eyeroll? Completely unhelpful. Use your words.[/quote]

A lot of adult adoptees have trauma. I am surprised you’re not aware of that. High suicide rates, too.[/quote]

As do kids who were raised in their bio families.  [/quote]

This sounds like a kind of  "all lives matter" thing with you. This has nothing to do with all kids. This is one population of kids..[/quote]

Actually, it is important to discuss.

Some kids who are placed for adoption are from families who have a genetic/family history of mental health issues/substance abuse so it's not surprising that you see it in the kids as well.  If everything was perfect, they would probably not be placed.[/quote]

We are talking about the baby scoop era where a lot of women were coerced into putting children up for adoption they might have otherwise aborted if they had access to safe and legal abortion or parented. There was a lot more secrecy and shame around adoption where adoptive parents wouldn't always tell their children that they were adopted or would keep it a big secret.

I recommend reading the book The girl who went away to understand more about this situation[/quote]

That's true,but the population that experienced an out of wedlock in an era when that was highly stigmatized were somewhat more likely to have mental health or substantive abuse challenges, as those make you more likely to engage in promiscuous behavior; less likely to use birth control (which was available then, although not as easily and not as many effective options); and less likely to have supportive family environments that would support them in single parenting (which was rare but not unheard of them) or support them in an early marriage (which was very common for unplanned pregnancy then).  Not saying that all parents who gave up children were in that situation, but it is statistically more likely, and therefore statistically more likely that adopted children would suffer from some of these conditions as well.  And that does even account for the fact that babies put up for adoption were somewhat more statistically likely to be the product of rape, which itself is correlated with certain mental health conditions and substance abuse problems.  [/quote]

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