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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think we've entered a new era where open adoption will prove to have just as many heartbreaking challenges.

So many adoptions now are private and essentially a pay-for-service model. Go out and find a young or poor woman who may/may not want to keep their child, offer them cold hard cash for "living expenses" and promise they will be an integral part of the child's life.

Maybe the adoptive parents will keep that promise maybe they won't. We all know now that open agreements are usually not enforceable.

You may have a child who has grown up WITH their bio parents as part of their life. Then they reach a stage where there may be conflict between the parents. The adoptive parents then decide to limit/cease contact with bio parents.

Even if there is no conflict, what is it like for these children to know their bio parents/families, but also know they were relinquished by them to be raised by others who are not in any way related?

What kind of non-biased psychological studies have looked at how these situations affect children?  There are lots of pro-adoption organizations touting how wonderful open adoption is but I've not seen any non-biased studies done. [/quote]

It depends on the state.  If laws haven't changed, in MD you aren't allowed to pay birthmother expenses outside medical and legal.  We didn't pay any birthmom expenses.  We just paid attorney fees.

You make adoption sound so simple.  [/quote]

Legally you mean. Many many adoptees were purchased in private adoption. Cash and extortion. And let's discuss those atty fees. [/quote]

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