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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She’s 12. Teach her to speak up for herself. “Grandma, when you say things like that it sounds like you’re embarrassed by me because of my hair, and how I look.” “Grandma, if you keep saying g things like that, it’ll make me not want to spend time with you.”[/quote]

There is an unequal power of balance and you saying it like it’s so simple for a 12 year old to say these things is disingenuous. [/quote]

No it’s not. There are reasons I don’t take shit from people, and one is that I watched my parents stick up for themselves and set boundaries growing up, and the other is that my parents gave me the words to do it myself when I got upset with someone, and then backed me up. [/quote]
Good for you. I work with children and I don’t know a single 12yo who would have the nerve to tell me this to my face, for many of the reasons mentioned here: they seek my approval. And I know some spunky kids.[/quote]

NP. Because you’re a good person and they want your approval. My grandmother constantly told me I was fat (I was a competitive swimmer and a size 6; I had broad shoulders and didn’t look like a waif). It got to the point where I was direct and snarky with her, because guess what? I didn’t need or want the approval of a horrible person. [/quote]

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