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[quote=Anonymous]OP here, I just want to thank everyone for your kind responses - I expected to get a lot of flack!

I am luckier than most.
My dad surprisingly had his financial affairs in order (though he has very little), doesn’t mind us looking over his finances etc (I have a brother but I am more involved)

Dad lives alone and far away, but we are arranging for him to come live closer to us (though also independently). He doesn’t want to be in assisted living even if he could afford it, for many reasons, though I think he would benefit from it. We hope to get him some in home support eventually.

It’s mostly the mental load that weighs on me, plus the costs of his move (though dad and my brother will cover a large part), plus all the organizing of his move and settling in. Another problem is that he requires some managing of his bigger projects like home repairs, initiating medical care (as in getting an appointment with a new doctor and then following up), etc. He also needs to be practically forced to bathe, wash clothes, things like that. He does not want any “stranger” doing it for him. 
I end up having to spend 2-6 weeks twice a year at his place, basically taking care of his projects. I am lucky I can take so much time off work but this is a big project of my own and I can’t fathom for it to go on for another 10+ years. Hopefully the move will make it easier but will bring on new challenges.

I just wanted to share how I feel! Thanks for listening. I will be doing what needs to be done but just needed to vent a little :) [/quote]

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