Reply to My dad is planning to live another 20 years

Forum Index » Eldercare

Reply to "My dad is planning to live another 20 years"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm 57.  I'm the youngest of 4 and my parents had me in their 40s.  My kids were born when they were in their 70s.    Point is I had young kids and older parents from the get go.  They both lived into their mid 90s - my mom died in 2020.  Me and my siblings had about 13 years of serious oversight and caregiving - the last 6 years was pretty constant even through they had in-home help and my mom eventually went into an independent living apartment.    Nobody really talks about this but it is hard and scary to support your parents as they decline - and the decline is often YEARS of your life.  Overall they were relatively healthy - but all the calls for falls, broken bones, ER trips for blood transfusions and mini strokes - calls about being lonely - oof.  All I can say is unless a parent dies suddenly of a heart attack, death is a long drawn out process and even when they have "help" it is a lot to manage that part too.  I am thankful that my siblings helped but it was hard and depressing unless you are that sibling that doesn't give a crap and shows up on holidays.   I'm saying this just so you can prepare yourself - living into your 90s is pretty common these days.[/quote]
yes, we are seeing this now with my parents and my ILs.  It's years of this kind of caregiving.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics